The staff should tell me or write down the lab and value they were monitoring, the name of the procedure, or I should have recorded with my phone. The procedure should have been done when his blood work was stable so he could go home for the holidays. 

The number of days as an inpatient is public knowledge. My dad should only have been in the hospital for
4-5 days; I could have called case management or the Chief Experience Officer for the hospital. ​[see resources, file for # days in the hospital]

The difference between a living will and advanced directives, so having a 'Do not resuscitate' (DNR)/no code status, to also have an open discussion with advanced directives documents clearly defined when to call an ambulance, and when to leave my mother, allowing her to go peacefully in her home when it is her time - without invasive treatment.